Say What You Mean

I haven't been able to write in a very long time. It kinda stinks, but it is what it is.
I wanted to remind anyone who reads this to say what you have to say today. My big thing is of coarse the soft and cuddly things. I am not a fan of blurting out horrific, life altering insults that damage a person or relationship for years, or even their lifetime. That stuff can always wait, because usually, it passes like a bad dinner. I speaking about the "I love you", "I am sorry", "I think you are magnificent" stuff. Wait too long to say how you feel and I guarantee you lose the opportunity and be haunted by it forever. Ominous, huh? But it's true, unfortunately that our last words to somebody had no significance or meaning. "Don't forget the milk!" is hardly a substitute for " I need you in my life".
I know my point is obvious. But think to yourself if you really have it down or just sometimes, because you are so busy. Do the kids always get to hear it, yet your spouse gets it occasionally? I am not preaching, I just want to get the word out so no one has to live through the excruciating feeling of regret. Not telling your loved ones you love them everyday as if it were all your last days is a mistake in my opinion. It is my opinion because I have lived through losing someone and doubling back over the years thinking of every word I ever said.
Mike and I say "I Love You" every day before he goes to work, we go to the store, we go to sleep. Excessive? No and here's why. I am not so arrogant to think we will live forever. That has never been the deal. The real deal is today. That's all any of us have. Just today. I am not a complete success at living each day as if it were my last, except when it comes to my family. I never miss an opportunity to tell them how much I love them.
Losing Danny, so young to cancer, was the best and worst thing that could have happened. The worst is painfully obvious, but the best cam e later as the realization that I had the chance to live differently. I had the opportunity to be different, more open, more loving, take bigger chances, go big or go home.
Go big today. Call everyone you know and tell them how lucky you are to have them. Tell them how much you love them. Shock the bejeepers out of them and squeeze the stuffin' out of them. Then sleep per chance to dream of the bigger things you can do tomorrow.